Death of a child?

A friend from work lost her baby just before her delivery. There will be no funeral just a graveside service. My question is what is appropriate? Do I send flowers to the graveside or do I have them sent to her home? Just not really sure what to do in this situation.

Death of a child?
how sad, id send them to her home, unless you plan on attending the service.
Reply:give it to her in person =)
Reply:If I were you I would send the flowers to the graveside. Why, because if I send it to her home it would be like i'm trying to suck her up(even though I'm not)





If I send it to graveside, she would see it when she went to the graveside and feel happy that somebody else do care. : )
Reply:No flowers, Just be there for her if she is takeing it badly...
Reply:I would send the flowers to her home, a day or two after the service.. and don't specify when they have to be delivered - have them call her and arrange the best time for her to get them :)





I wouldn't send anything graveside, it's more of a close family thing and depending on what they're doing might not be appropriate..
Reply:Wow. That must be tough. I am sorry to hear that. I personally would send flowers and a card to the home so that it would help brighten the home up a little. Try to anyway.
Reply:both home and gravesie
Reply:I would send them to her home, and then visit her in maybe a few weeks (depending on how close you are) and bring her a meal
Reply:like southern mama said, make a donation in the baby's/family name. I feel for her loss, I had a miscarriage a few years ago
Reply:I THINK MAYBE BOTH ONE FOR THE MOM AND THE OTHER FOR THE POOR BABY!
Reply:just send it to her house..


you never knew the baby...


you should just send it to her house and make HER feel better...


because i know what it is like...


my mother has lost 2 babies before they were born...


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Reply:Graveside. You could also (if you feel close enough to do so) Make a dinner for her and her husband that can be warmed up and take it to her home. Or give gift cards to local take-out spots. so she and her husband can just order out and not have to go into public places. My bestfriend lost a baby at 2days of age and her Aunt gave her gift-cards for take out and it helped her alot. Esp. if she has other children to feed.
Reply:Give her space for a little bit.


Send the flowers to her home. And to the graveside.
Reply:My friend went through the same situation. I think you should send flowers to the graveside then put a note inside saying "Love, ___________ and put a prayer inside.


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Reply:that is very sad! umm... im not that sure eathier! i would send to home but i might be wrong
Reply:I think send flowers to the grave, and a card to the home. It's fine to send flowers to either of those places though, it's the thought that counts.
Reply:as hard as it is to have some one close to you or someone you know to loose a child at any age or gestation is can be very difficult and to try and send your sympathy cxan be even harder when you dont want to make them feel any more grieve but them knowing that you care ca nbe a great deal of help in the process. sending flowers to eithor the home or the graveside would be approperiate, the home it would brighten a room and bring some love from a friend, and also would bring love to their child that they lost. eithor way they will know you love them and feel their pain and sorrow.





i am so sorry i know know how it feels, and i know that the feeling of love from friends and family makes it feel a little bit better to see the next day through,my husband and i lost a pregnancy at 13 weeks it wasnt very far but it was my baby. we where given another chance and 3 kids later they give us hope that the next day will be worth seeing to the end!
Reply:not sure


i would do both
Reply:When I had a miscarriage at 20 weeks, my friends all made a donnation to the March of Dimes in honor of the baby. I was sent a very nice card from the March of Dimes telling me about that. I cared about that more then the flowers I got.
Reply:Graveside.