What is the most tragic suicide that you've personally dealt with?

Sorry if this topic upsets anyone, but I'm trying to work through my own pain of losing someone close to me, and talking about this helps. A few months ago the girl who was to be the maid of honor at our wedding killed herself. Sarah believed that she screwed up a college entrance exam that she thought would be her last hope for a career (after being out of work and depressed for over a year). She laid out on the railroad tracks after getting drunk on liquor, and apparently was motionless (passed out) when the train operator hit the brakes too late. It totally devastated her family, my Fiancee', everyone. Her entire family is on medication now (including two sisters and a brother), no one can work, and they visit the grave site every day with fresh flowers hoping a miracle will happen. Now the worst part. She had actually been accepted by the college, and the couriers had screwed up the delivery of the acceptance notice. Sooooooo tragic. The parents have the notice framed and up on the wall at home as a source of pride. Their pastor has mentioned that they need to get on with their lives, but they can't. They have turned her bedroom into a sort of shrine.


I really don't know what to think about this as it is all like some kind of terrible nightmare, I don't think I've really heard of any other worse than this. We feel like we are the only ones who have to go through this. Thanks for listenening.

What is the most tragic suicide that you've personally dealt with?
Last February my boyfriends mother killed herself, his brother found her in the basement after drinking an extensive amount of anti-freeze. They did an autopsy and found it in her stomach.. so tragic.





My boyfriend doesn't talk about his mother, and it worries me too. He seems to be numb from any pain that he might have felt after she killed herself. I'm currently trying to encourage him to go to therapy.





My father died in 2000 and it was a very tragic loss for me, I was very close to my dad, he didn't kill himself however, but the loss of a loved one is very difficult to deal with no matter how they died.





My suggestion would be to find a support group in a local church or talking with a grievence councelor of some kind. Support groups can help a great deal because you won't feel so alone, and you will find that many people have a lot in common.





I live in Michigan and there are support groups of suicide survivors located throughout the state, there might be one where you live as well.
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Reply:may GOD BLESS HER SOUL i am sorry that it happen to Sarah,i no that she is with GOD and his taking good care of her.don't forget she watching over you all.you no it takes just a second to kill yourself.i am myself in severe depression,and i tried to kill myself in the last 3 years and I've done it five time.i don't want to tell you how i did it because i don't want to see any body do it.but i thank GOD,MY GUARDIAN ANGEL,AND ALL OF THE OTHER ANGELS,because i am a live to day.i still thinking of do it but am afraid to be cripple.so i ask GOD,the Angels to help me its struggle every day,and i have to take a lot of pills to help myself every day,why i want to do that i think it my neuron that don't work good and because what i did well i have destroy things in me.
Reply:My best friend was 47 and relapsed on alcholol at a casino after 8 years of sobriety....She got arrested that night and hung herself in the jail because of shame. Take care, Kitty
Reply:You are not alone, that's for sure. Suicide is a terrible thing, I tried to kill myself when I was a young girl and of course did not succeed. All I can tell you is at the time I wasn't thinking of what would happen afterwords, where I would go when I died and I wasn't thinking of what my friends and family would have to deal with afterwards... I was being selfish only thinking of my pain and my pain really wasn't nothing that bad. Well that was a long time ago and since then I have had to deal with my husbands mother killing her self , a year later his father, I have had 2 friends kill themselves and a little over 2 years ago my mother's husband killed himself. It has showed me how selfish this act is, because of what your family and friends have to go through and it is just awful. I have God in my life and it helps. I believe it is a sin to take a life God gave you and throw it away like it was nothing, but I also think God holds a special healing place for these lost souls. I can't tell you it ever feels better, because that pain is always there, but it does seem to ease as time goes by. As for your friends family all you can do is be there to listen to them and help keep her spirit alive, but you have to go on with your life believe me your friend in heaven realizes what she has done now and she would not want you to dwell on this all your life. I am very sorry for your loss. Take care.
Reply:I can relate to your feelings and tragic loss as my son's best friend killed himself just 5 months ago. He was only 15 yrs old and his mother found him hung in his closet. My son has Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome now and is seeing a counselor. What makes the situation worse is no one had no clue as to why he did this. I find myself wondering all the time "what could I have done to help him" but in reality he was obviously suffering from the inside over a deeper issue than anyone could see. It really messed my son up he is now on anti-depressants, can't go to school, has nightmares, and is agoraphobic (can't leave the house" so I know first hand the tragic and devastation of going through the suicide of someone close to your family.

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