Sympathy flower arrangements?

a friend of mine just lost her son and we are going to the wake tommorow....he was creamated...i am sending flowers to the church and i was wondering who i am supposed to address it to...do i put his name on the delivery or the mothers....also i decided on red and white carnations on a stand...do you think there better in a pot?

Sympathy flower arrangements?
I would put to the family of...and his name. But as for flowers or potted flowers, I'd recommend a dish garden. Its all live green plants. Some florists put cuts mums in it to give it color and usually bow. I like this better than the cut floral arrangement for sympathy because the dish garden will live on and on just like you want the departed's memory to live on and on. But if you have your heart set on red and white carnations, I dont think thats a bad idea either. Good luck with the decision and please tell your friend sorry for her loss.
Reply:As a florist I recommend writing his name on the card and then c/o or care of and then his mother's name. That way the funeral home get's it to the correct wake. Oh and on the pot, just a tip if the florist where to add water to the pot to keep the flowers longer the funeral home would probably pour it out. Most don't like the water to spill on the carpet.
Reply:Having been on the receiving end of this, the flowers are all beautiful. But the live plants live on and they are wonderful remembrances. But to answer your question, on a stand with the carnations and you put the mother's name on the delivery.
Reply:You can either put his name or "To the family of [his name]" or to his mother. All will be appreciated. When my son died suddenly, we received flowers and cards all ways. What will matter to her is that you remembered.





As to stand or pot, either will be just fine. The florist will put those on a stand in oasis so they will stay fresh.





Please be sure to remember her later as well, and let her talk about her son (don't avoid his name). Every time someone tells her a story about him or lets her talk about him, it gives her back a piece of him. If you want to email me privately, I'll send you my son's web page address and you can look at some of the things his friends said about him. Those young people will never know how very much their comments and stories helped me.





One more thing, please give her a hug from one mother who lost her son to another who lost her son. Please assure her that even though it will always hurt, she will learn to live around the pain and have a full life again, not now, not tomorrow, but it will happen, piece by piece.